quite disturbed about a conversation i had with someone recently, altho i'm sure that the person didn't mean to deliberately say certain things which meant what they meant.

Picking up on the point of -is anyone going to be in heaven because of you?
This person was talking about the need to serve because people need him/her. And i cautiously mentioned his/her unwillingness to let go of the "title" or job scope might just be the thing that someone else needs to step up and grow. Sometimes 'letting go' has the same connotations as giving up or quitting. But that's a seriously wrong perception.

One is about willingness and surrender, the other is due to the lack of hope or will.
The fact that i want to reiterate is- nobody is going to heaven because of me or you.
Yes, we can do what we can with Go'd's heartbeat that none shall perish. But ultimately the saving power doesn't lie with us. So i don't think that i can elevate myself to that position to say that 'so and so' is saved because of me. In fact, the reason why tonnes of people don't go to church today is because the church is so full of people worshipping themselves and their churches rather then what God has done, is doing and can do.